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《我的前半生》:女人,什么时候都要先取悦自己

金凤凰社工 2017-07-26

女人,什么时候都要先取悦自己


最近,由亦舒小说改编的电视剧《我的前半生》热播,主要讲了一个养尊处优全职太太罗子君(马伊俐饰)遭遇婚姻危机,被迫离婚一切归零,后来重新回归职场,在朋友的帮助下,过上了独立又漂亮的生活。



马伊俐饰演的全职太太一直以来信奉的是“你负责赚钱养家,我负责貌美如花”,孩子有保姆接送,吃饭喝水有保姆递到手上,穿的是八万块钱的定制鞋,保养得比同龄人年轻,打扮也非常时尚。


看上去真是花好月圆、幸福无边。但是这样的日子过久了,自己渐渐脱离社会,两人无共同语言,还被丈夫嫌弃无能愚昧。


结果夫妻两人同床异梦,老公在外面有了小三,最后丈夫提出离婚……



剧中丈夫出轨,虽然有错在先,但从根源上说,是子君的爱情观以及婚姻观出了问题。


“你负责赚钱养家,我负责貌美如花”,听起来多么美好~不过听听就好,真相信你就太傻了!


剧中子君的闺蜜唐晶有几句话说的很对:


当你吃的喝的用的,都是男人给的时候,就没有了自己的话语权。


女性独立、工作,不管赚的钱多还是钱少,赚回来的是都是一份尊严,取悦的是自己,至少可以挺直腰板的说,离开了你,我一样可以养活自己,过的很好,我一样可以很开心。



所以说,女人要去取悦的不是丈夫,不是家庭,更不要依赖父母,只有取悦自己,慢慢变强大,你的人生才会强大!


就算有一天被抛弃了,你失去的也只是一份感情,而不是人生的全部。


长得漂亮是优势,活得漂亮是本事,能够取悦自己的女人,别人也会取悦你自己!


如果一直取悦别人,把自我价值放的太低,那么久而久之,周遭的一切都会觉得你的价值很低,那个时候,你就会明白,自轻而人轻的道理。


所以无论是在恋爱过程也好,婚姻生活也罢,把重点放在自我身上,把自我价值放在第一位身上,那么你的恋爱,婚姻,事业,家庭都会因此而有所收获。


不为别人,只为自己!


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